Knowing the sex of your unborn baby
Last weekâ€™s post on Reach out and touch me provoked interesting debate here and on Twitter, so this week I thought I would keep on the bonding theme.
Last week my brother sent me a text. It simply said 'It's a boy!' Heâ€™d just come out of his girlfriendâ€™s 20 week scan. Straight away, proud aunty-to-be that I am, I called him back shrieking 'I knew it, fantastic, congratulations!' Cue obligatory jokes about footy teams, and him being a striker.
Doctors this week suggested there is no need for parents to know the babyâ€™s sex at a 20 week scan. A specialist recommended 30 weeks. But how important is this information to parents?
My mum and grandmother marvelled at my scan photos and the idea that we could know our babies' sex in advance. I couldnâ€™t resist finding out, there was something magical about being able to bond just a little bit more with my babies. During pregnancy lots of time is spent dreaming and fantasising about your baby, and the child they will be. For me knowing whether I was having a girl or boy made those images more tangible.
Iâ€™m biased, so I asked my fellow bloggers what they did. Mostlyyummymummy has found out, not found out, and for one child wasnâ€™t able to tell at the scan. Her favourite she says, was the exciting surprise of the â€˜itâ€™s a boy/girlâ€™ moment at the end of labour. @Clearbean explained her thoughts changed with each pregnancy, the first time she was impatient, second time she wanted to prepare her first child and third time did not want to, but her partner did.
For her first two children Rachel of Right from the Start didnâ€™t find out, she felt that it would take something away from the birth, looking back she has no regrets and felt it added to the magic and surprise of having a newborn. But, for her third child she found out, because she had 2 girls at this point and wanted to be prepared, boys names were proving challenging, as was choosing a third girlâ€™s name. But she says knowing she was having a girl the third time didnâ€™t take any excitement away.